Are you a bossy person or a typical hard-working victim? Do you try to help others and don’t think of your needs?
If you want to know whether you take too many responsibilities on your shoulders, try to answer the six questions choosing a, b, or c.
1. Your friend wasn’t at school and she wants to borrow from your math notebook. What do you do?
a) You start to look for your notebook immediately.
b) You say „it’s in my bag” and wait until she finds it.
c) You just say „I don’t know where it is”.
2. You have discovered that one of your colleagues gave to the teacher your essay as her own. What do you do?
a) You look for an excuse for her. Maybe it was really difficult for her.
b) You try to find out how she got it.
c) You see no chance for forgiveness.
3. At school:
a) you work very hard but others get good marks;
b) you always work in a group of friends and you share success;
c) others work harder than you but it’s you who makes a good impression.
4. Your homework is to prepare an anti-drug poster and you work in pairs. You ought to prepare a text and your friend a drawing. But you see that she has difficulties. What would you do?
a) You help her because you know you’ll do it better.
b) You tell her how to do it well step by step.
c) You do nothing because you believe that she should manage her own problems.
5. You quarrel with a colleague. Do you:
a) give up quickly because you hate to be stressed?
b) want to discuss and explain everything that made you fight?
c) finish with the victory because you always have to have the last word?
6. How do you find your relationship with your best friend?
a) Your friend doesn’t care about you as much as you care about her.
b) You can always count on each other.
c) You think you should change „the best friend”.
Something about you:
Dominance a) of answers
You do a lot of things that other people should do. Teachers often ask you to help in doing something after school because they know you will not refuse. You are not very happy with all those situations that is why you often feel exploited and tired. But you will still go shopping with your friend even if there’s your favourite programme on TV.
What to do: Don’t be afraid to tell friends or teachers that you have something more important to do. You have the right to your own life. They will understand but remember to be polite.
Dominance b) of answers:
You are a helpful person but you always think whether you have anything important to do. You are reasonable and you consider whose problem is bigger – yours or your friend’s. You often think of profits that you can have.
What to do: Sometimes people think that you are too practical person. Try to smile more often and do some things for nothing.
Dominance c) of answers:
You never do anything that should be done by someone else. You even try to avoid helping other people. And you don’t do anything that is dangerous or uncomfortable for you. Maybe that’s why it’s hard for you to find really good friends. You are not a favourite student of teachers because you don’t want to help them.
What to do: Help someone sometimes! It will not hurt you! This is the way to find friends, too.